Life Above the Fray Series

If you were assigned to watch your own life as a third party and take notes, what would your notes reveal? Is there peace, chaos, or some combination of the two? Do the people in your sphere of influence drain you of your energy or energize you? Do you add to the stress of your own life or seek ways to diffuse it? Is your calendar manageable and organized, or are you going six ways to Sunday most of the time?

Are you lost in the fray or living above it?

To be honest, I sometimes walk a tightrope between peace and chaos. However, God has blessed me with much more peace than I used to have. That’s because as I have drawn closer to Him, He has revealed the secret of life above the fray. My circumstances and emotions used to govern my attitude and behavior way more than my faith in God did. In His mercy, God is showing me how to gain a higher perspective and live above my daily circumstances, above the fray.

In the coming weeks, we are going to examine the practice of “Living Above the Fray”, no matter what the circumstances of life may be. Living this way doesn’t mean we aren’t busy or overwhelmed. It doesn’t mean life is perfect and peaceful at all times. Living Above the Fray means we are training our minds and hearts to exist in a quiet space above the noise, close to the heart of Father God. We can live above the fray even if life is a little (or a lot) crazy.

As we journey through this series, we will cover:

  • Thinking Above the Fray
  • Loving Above the Fray
  • Giving Above the Fray
  • Persevering Above the Fray

God has called us to a life of peace and victory, even when things feel overwhelming and may appear impossible. Even when you feel worried and uncertain, you can learn to live above the fray.


No matter your age or circumstances, you have a singular purpose – it’s what you were created for. You were created to know God and to glorify Him with your life. Whatever else we have on to-do lists or on the calendar cannot and must not take precedence over this glorious truth.

YOU were made for more. YOU are loved. Paul knew this about his own life but only after Jesus Himself interrupted his whole existence. Paul’s life was thrown into sharp relief as he saw clearly the contrast between what he was doing versus the plan God had for him.

After being confronted by Jesus and going through a reckoning process with all he believed to be true, Paul was changed. He understood that living above the fray meant letting everything else stand down. This revelation changed everything. The trajectory of his life was repositioned, and over 2,000 years later, his words bring life to us. They reveal the life we can have when we choose Jesus above all else.

Life above the fray is a life of bravery and purpose. It’s a life that we choose when we embrace the power of God and are open to its work in our lives.

This is why I remind you to fan into flames the spiritual gift God gave you when I laid my hands on you. For God has not given us a spirit of fear and timidity, but of power, love, and self-discipline. -1 Timothy 1:6-7

Through the revelation of God, Paul came to realize that his purpose and priorities needed to be changed in order to live a victorious life, transcending the details of worldly existence. His purpose became serving God through the spreading of the Gospel and the encouragement of the young church.


Living above the fray is a choice we make with intent and purpose. Above the noise, stress, busyness, and demands of this earthly life, there’s a place we can abide. It doesn’t “just happen”, and we can’t wish it into existence.

Serious soul work is needed to rise above the fray. The good news is that the Lord can take our obedience and prayers and bridge the gap between our capabilities and His perfect plan. We just need to step out in faith and trust God to meet us.

The following passage from Psalm 46 is a snapshot of life above the fray. Despite the raging and railing of the world, there is a picture of perfect peace that comes when we run into the arms of refuge. It is a “holy place where the Most High dwells”. Let us seek to ascend to that place through prayer, worship, and stillness before the Lord.

God is our refuge and strength, an ever-present help in trouble.
Therefore we will not fear, though the earth give way and the mountains fall into the heart of the sea, though its waters roar and foam and the mountains quake with their surging.

There is a river whose streams make glad the city of God,
 the holy place where the Most High dwells.
God is within her, she will not fall; God will help her at break of day.

Psalm 46:1-5

I hope you’ll join me on this journey as we look at how we think, love, give, and persevere despite whatever is going on in our lives. May God grant you the grace and strength you need to live above the fray in 2019.

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4 thoughts on “Life Above the Fray Series

  1. As someone who prays for our family, you know how critical it is for us to get above the fray.
    It has taken me years to understand this and I’m not sure if I am there just yet…you just have
    a way to bring things into perspective for us…thank you for sharing your gift with us!!

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