Loving Above the Fray

It’s easy to love those who are lovable. When people are cooperative and love us back, it’s a breeze. The challenge comes when relationships are messy, our tempers are short, and people disappoint us with their choices. Loving others above the fray is no easy task.

The Bible has a wealth of things to say about loving others, addressing even the hard-to-do task of loving others when they are unlovely or unlovable. In my human weakness, I am not capable of the agape love of Jesus.

Agape love is the rugged love that rolls up its sleeves and plunges its hands into muddy waters. It grips with a grasp that is firm yet gentle. It’s a love that willingly sacrifices, even when things are uncomfortable and inconvenient.

When life gets complicated and people are difficult to love, how do we love above the fray? How do we love like Jesus?


These passages of scripture give clear instructions of how we are to love others. Following the example of Jesus and his instructions on how to love will help us love others above the fray.

Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers over a multitude of sins. -1 Peter 4:8

Love must be sincere. Hate what is evil; cling to what is good. Be devoted to one another in love. Honor one another above yourselves. Never be lacking in zeal, but keep your spiritual fervor, serving the Lord. Be joyful in hope, patient in affliction, faithful in prayer. Share with the Lord’s people who are in need. Practice hospitality. Bless those who persecute you; bless and do not curse. Rejoice with those who rejoice; mourn with those who mourn. Live in harmony with one another. Do not be proud, but be willing to associate with people of low position. Do not be conceited. -Romans 12:9-16

Since God chose you to be the holy people he loves, you must clothe yourselves with tenderhearted mercy, kindness, humility, gentleness, and patience. Make allowance for each other’s faults, and forgive anyone who offends you. Remember, the Lord forgave you, so you must forgive others. Above all, clothe yourselves with love, which binds us all together in perfect harmony. -Colossians 3:12-14

My command is this: Love each other as I have loved you. Greater love has no one than this: to lay down one’s life for one’s friends. You are my friends if you do what I command. -John 15:12-14

You have heard the law that says, ‘Love your neighbor’ and hate your enemy. But I say, love your enemies! Pray for those who persecute you! In that way, you will be acting as true children of your Father in heaven.  -Matthew 4:43-45


This kind of love, one that loves above the fray, is only possible when we are near to Jesus. We must be in the Word, reading and praying. We must be looking for opportunities to bless and love others, even those who don’t demonstrate love towards us.

This is impossible love. Nobody but God can give us the supernatural ability to love this way. We are too selfish, too easily offended, too prideful. With divine insight and a measure of God’s grace, this impossible love becomes possible.

As you endeavor to live life above the fray, I pray that your love for others would abound. May God heal your relationships and give you grace to love everyone in your sphere of influence as Jesus loves us.


9 thoughts on “Loving Above the Fray

  1. Thank you Tracy… I have been blessed to start my morning reading such
    beautiful scripture !

    A grape love !! ❤️
    Have a Blessed an amazing day on purpose !

    In God Love and Grace,
    Kathy Rodgers

  2. Loving above the fray is the most difficult
    one for me. It continues to be an every
    day work in progress of my being. This
    read was an important reminder of how
    to be living above by living in the word,
    reading and praying. Thank you

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