This post is an update and remix of one I wrote last year about choosing an “un-resolution” instead of a New Year’s resolution. Good or bad, each year becomes a page in the tale of our lives. Decembers have a way of teaching us so much when we sit back quietly in their arms and reflect.
Decembers have a way of teaching us so much when we sit back quietly in their arms and reflect.
Some years back, I stopped making resolutions like “lose weight”, “keep the house neat”, and “get out of debt” because they were overwhelming and usually ended in disaster and self-loathing. Rather than setting myself up for frustration and feelings of failure, I began to choose a single word as I entered a new year. This word helps me focus and concentrate my efforts more effectively.
I learned of this practice at the www.MyOneWord.org website. The focus is on the “Un-Resolution”. Here’s a quick overview from their website on what it is all about.
“Our resolutions seldom work because they are based on the type of person we’re tired of being rather than who God wants us to become. Plus, resolutions can be “broken,” leaving no room for the process of growth. What if our hopes for the year ahead centered instead on who God wants us to become, and the transformation process?
It’s okay to want to be a better you, and the New Year is a natural time to start. The question is, how? My One Word replaces broken promises with a vision for real change. When you choose a single word, you have a clarity and focus. You are moving toward the future rather than swearing off the past.” (courtesy – www.myoneword.org)
The best thing about choosing a word is that the emphasis is on PROCESS rather than the PRODUCT. For example, if your resolution is to lose 20 pounds, but you only lose 18 by the end of the year, you have made pretty remarkable progress. However, you haven’t met your goal.
By choosing a word like HEALTHY as your One Word for the year, you have succeeded if you’ve lost 18 pounds. It seems to me we should start measuring our success by whether or not we have experienced growth, not just if we meet a goal.
Some of my previous One Words have been FOCUS, BELIEVE and INTENTIONAL. These words allowed me to reflect on what I was doing as I made my plans. This method allowed me to monitor progress instead of obsessing about an exact end result.
The idea is that sometimes we don’t try or try and fail spectacularly because we are too caught up in doing it perfectly. TerKeurst asserts that efforts that yield “imperfect progress” are better and more realistic. I heartily agree with her. Forward motion, no matter how slight, is still forward motion.
Steal away with a cup of tea and reflect on who you want to be in 2018. What kind of change do you desire? Choose a word that captures this change. Use it to anchor your motives and actions as you monitor your progress. Decide what resources you’ll need.
You may decide to purchase a cookbook on healthy eating, or a book on home organization. Perhaps you’ll begin a bible study related to your One Word, or find an accountability partner to share your progress with. Maybe you just need a new pair of sneakers for walking.
No matter what your One Word is, you’ll need a plan and resources to begin the change.
I am offering a free printable to help you record your monthly progress in 2018. Then, you can look back at the end of the year and see the overall progress you’ve made. I’ve created this free printable for my readers because I believe in writing things down to record growth, troubleshoot difficulties, and reflect. Get your FREE printable when you subscribe to Earl Grey and Yellow – FREE PRINTABLE for 2018 Goals.
Forward motion, no matter how slight, is still forward motion.
I hope you’ll find the “un-resolution” much more rewarding than your previous resolutions. Focus on the PROCESS and the PROGRESS. May your 2018 be blessed and full of growth!